New Moon Astrology with Joshua Robbins

Kelly: [00:00:00] Good morning. Good evening. Wherever you are in your day. Welcome to the Girlfriend's Guru, personal growth, happiness and well being podcast, Talk. Travel. Transformation. Guest Joshua Robbins is joining me today for a very fun podcast on astrology. I'm bringing in the energy of the moon and the stars to the Girlfriend's Guru podcast today. Joshua is with Astral Above and is one of the most insightful souls I have run across lately. Together, we will lay out exactly what New Moon energy is all about, give you more meaning to the energies behind each astrological sign and then give you a peek into the future of summer and what it's going to look like.

So if you've never used New Moon energy as a source for healing, you're in for a treat. Joshua, thank you so much for joining me.

Joshua: [00:01:02] No, thank you for having me. I'm super, super excited to be here and to connect with your audience. Hi everybody. yeah, we got a, we got a fun topic to talk about today. 

Kelly: [00:01:12] We certainly do.

So let's start with new moon energy. So in my yoga teachings, I am all about the moon path. So the wisdom that I've learned is that every lunar month is divided into periods each with its own particular energy. So for the beginners, the new moon is the first day of the lunar month. And it's particularly positive as a source of planting seed energy for the entire month.

Joshua, I'm going to rely on you today to be the expert, to unpack and demystify each of the new moon energies of the astrological calendar, because I really want my girlfriends to understand the energy of each new moon and that they can take these energies and turn them into very conscious actions. So before Josh jumps in, let's just take you through.

We plant the seed at the new moon as the moon is in its growing phase. The energy is generally positive and therefore it's a good time to transform. And you know, me, I'm all about transformation. And then at the full moon, we're at peak manifestation for the month and then the moon wanes and recedes, and it's a time and a period of letting go and detachment. So Joshua how's that sound? Am I on the right track?

Joshua: [00:02:29] I like it. Yeah. I like it a lot - you're hired! [Laughter] You're hired, that's it - you want to come work for me? No, I'm kidding. Yeah. I mean, that's basically how it works in a nutshell. And, you know, just to kind of take it a tad bit deeper, you know, I am not a conventional astrologer. I am a Kabbalistic astrologer, which means that I incorporate many, many teachings of the ancient wisdom of Kabbalah into every aspect of how I understand astrology and how I practice astrology. And one of the key tenants of Kabbalah, which is an ancient, spiritual wisdom that gives us tools to make a real transformation in our life, is that Kabbalah teaches that consciousness creates reality, meaning that wherever your mind is that's what's going to grow and that's what's going to manifest in front of you. So if your consciousness is in a place of - we'll call it light. So in a space where you were sharing, you were giving, you were creating. That will eventually overtime reflect back to you in your world. If your consciousness is in a place of taking, receiving, focused only on me, then, that will also be reflected back, but in the form of challenges, chaos, difficulties. So the idea is, we want to make sure that we are constantly in a spiritual space where we are pushing ourselves to be more light-like to be more like a creator, to be proactive, to take actions that take us out of what we would call in Kabbalah a reactive system - the part of us that tells us to only think about us. And the reason why his is so important is because the consciousness that you have when you are beginning something, or when you are at the beginning of something, is what creates or, or injects, or even, genetically modifies the DNA of whatever is going to grow from that seed, the fruit of that seed.

So, like you said, the new moon, it's like planting the seed that day of the new moon is the same level of the entire 30 day or 27, 28 day lunar cycle. That's to come. So if on that first day of the lunar month, your consciousness and your thoughts and your actions are aligned with the light, then that is going to support you and grow into the fruit that will come in the full moon at the middle of the month. And so the power of understanding, not just, you know, what happens on the first day of the month is what, you know, I will see in the month, but it's also, how am I connecting proactively, how am I taking a creator stance, a light like stance to inject, to proactively inject that type of energy into my month?

So for example, let's say you're on the first day of any given new moon, right? And you've made, you've decided, okay, today I'm going to be creative. I'm going to be, I'm going to, you know, start something new. I'm going to be proactive. I'm going to be kind; I'm going to be sharing and boom! Something is going to come up and it's going to, let's say trigger your anger. Right? Let's say trigger your fear, trigger your worry, and trigger your judgment. What you need to be aware of is that the universe is, there's two energies that are always present in the universe, the energy of the light and the energy that wants to challenge us, to give us the opportunity to overcome it so that we can reveal that light.

So you're going to have a challenge and it invariably happens on those new moons because we need to take a step to overcome that reactive aspect of ourselves to overcome the anger, to overcome the frustration, to overcome the fear. And so we need to be aware that on the new moons that the reactive system is going to be, on high alert,  it's going to be supercharged.

Kelly: [00:06:44] Yep. Absolutely. And especially once you're aware of it, that happens, right?

Joshua: [00:06:52] Absolutely. Absolutely. And you know, you're going to make the decision "Okay, on the new moon, I'm going to be extra kind" and then there's going to be some obstacle that's going to occur that's going to give you an excuse, not to be kind. You need to be kind anyway. Because if you can overcome that challenge, what you do is you reveal positive energy. You, you, create vibrations throughout the universe that will then reverberate through the cosmos and eventually reflect back to you throughout the next 30 day cycle.

And so, not only are you, you know, you're going to be challenged, but if you overcome that challenge on the new moon, then it's going to be a huge payoff. You're going to be supported.

Kelly: [00:07:38] Absolutely. And I can tell you that when I started using this wisdom, my month's had so much more consciousness injected in it and Girlfriends, this is not just about a one day thing. It's not just new moon plant the seed one and done you do continue it through the whole month. And before we go even further, I want to add a tool that, I use. With new moon and that planting energy, it is potent. It is important. But another tool that I use, that's almost just important to me is the reflection at the end of the month.

And I think that, as that calendar closes. I feel it's just as important to review the entire previous 30 days so we can reestablish our goals. We need to assess our shortcomings. We need to prepare for the next new moon ahead because each new lunar month is an opportunity to start again.

And each new moon is a renewal and a restart of our spiritual path. So I like to think of these new moons as like little stepping stones on our journey, you know, to spirituality, so to speak. Right?

Joshua: [00:08:49] 100% Yeah, absolutely. And I mean, you know, I love that idea of, you know, there's always a new beginning, always, always a new beginning and you can even take it down to the day.

You know, the Kabbalists teach that at every sunrise, the world is renewed. And so even, even on a daily basis, you can even do the daily cycle, you know, but I just think that's so powerful and beautiful. The idea that, you know, it's never really over, of course, until, you know, we leave the world, but then even again, if we believe in reincarnation, we start over again in the new body.

Kelly: [00:09:21] I tell you that I've had to do that a few times during COVID, right? It's just like tomorrow is going to be a new day. Tomorrow is going to be a new day, but let's, don't get sidetracked on COVID...

In a previous podcast Becoming Unlimited with David Bosscher, who, which is by the way, girlfriends, this is how, Joshua and I met is through David. We talked about the concept of, Tikkun, which is another word for correction and, listeners, if you're not familiar with the word Tikkun, it's a Kabbalistic concept that reveals that the kind of choices we make in our past lives determines the karma that we carry and maybe even more important, which choices we should make this time around.

So I think Tikkun and all of this is kind of a big concept. So, if you need to go back to the Becoming Unlimited podcast for more information on Tikkun, but Joshua, am I correct in saying that we're born into the astrological sign that will help us most achieve our Tikkun, our correction?

Joshua: [00:10:20] Exactly, exactly. I mean, it's not just the individual sun sign, you know, when we say "my sign" we're talking about where the sun was. So for example, you know, I'm a Libra. That means the sun was in Libra when I was born. Right? And so that means a big chunk of who I am and my work, and what I meant to do in this world is related to the Tikkun of Libra, but then you also have all the other planets in the, in the, in the birth chart.

You know, when we look at a person's astrological chart, we're looking at all the planets, then they all mean different things and they represent different challenges and different gifts and different opportunities. So, you know, there's, there's a whole sea, a whole sea and an ocean of wisdom that can be understood when you look at and you go just even a little bit deeper into understanding your astrological chart, but in terms of Tikkun, basically the, the, the vast majority of our Tikkun does come from, from a Kabbalistic perspective, the Kabbalistic month that we were born in - and sometimes the Kabbalistic month that we were born in, it's the same as our sun sign. And sometimes it's not.

Kelly: [00:11:29] You'll have to do a personal one on one with Josh to figure out exactly...  If you're thinking about the calendar, right? And so Girlfriends I'm pointing out that this is more than rudimentary astrology from like seventies, astrology, pop culture, you know what I'm talking about? This, this conversation we're having today is not, "Hey baby, what's your sign?"

But seriously, if we learn more about our signs, it can help us avoid roadblocks and detours that really slow our progress towards connection to the light, because that's what the Tikkun is all about is your correction. So that way we can tune into the energy of our sign. And as we're talking about this, I don't want everybody just to kind of tune out until we get to their sign, because I think it's particularly important to know, what our partners, our husbands, wives, what other family members signs are and those friends and loved ones close to us. Because if we really know what's behind each of the signs from the people we love, then I think we can all become more what we're meant to be, and we can all connect to each other in a more deeper and truest sense. Don't you think?

Joshua: [00:12:45] A hundred percent, a hundred percent. I mean, if you understand, if you, I mean, there's, there's a few ways we can look at this the first way is to, if you can understand someone's point of view, someone's perspective, someone's universe, you can look at them with a lot more kindness, you can look at them with a lot more love and a lot more understanding and patience and mercy. The other thing is that we all, you know, the signs are always present at every given moment. And when we're born, all of the signs are in our chart. We all have the signs influencing the whole 360 degree astrological chart. And so, when we go through these 12 months and the energy of the 12 months, we're all probably going to identify with different pieces in different parts of our lives. But like we said, the biggest chunk is going to be, that, that Kabbalistic month, that lunar month that we were born in.

And that's what we're going to focus on when we talk about the new moons, those are the Kabbalistic months that, and the energies that are present, that we have the opportunity to take control over. And that's the whole idea, Kabbalistically is when you inject that light like consciousness into the new moon, you're basically taking control over the entire energy of the month.

You are putting yourself back into the driver's seat. So pay attention, pay attention to every single month because you're going to go through each month, every year. And so you want to know what is the, at least the core, the basic idea of what you need to do for every month that's to come.

Kelly: [00:14:30] I think that's wonderful. So let's get to cracking the code of, of each month and each new moon energy, because I know for me personally, I have greater harmony and fulfillment having, tuned into this wisdom. So take it away. Joshua let's start with Aries. I am an Aires sign. So Aires always like to go first, so, start with me.

Joshua: [00:14:55] They go first because they are first, the first sign. So just a little interesting tidbit - You know, most of us probably were familiar with the four elements. Kabbalistically, every sign has an element. It has an external element, but it also has an internal element.

You won't hear this from any other type of astrology, other than Kabbalistic astrology. When it comes to the internal elements. So it's just a little interesting tidbit to keep in mind as we go through, because you might say, "What? I've never heard of that before." This is why, because it's a unique form of astrology.

So Aries is a fire sign externally, but internally it's water and the combination of fire and water can cause us to react angrily and destructively when our feelings are hurt. Aries is also a sign that has a singular focus on itself. So on the new moon of Aries, we want to resist the urge to react in anger when things don't go our way and we want to reach outside of ourselves and focus on inspiring those around us with the positive examples we set. On the new moon of Aries, essentially humility is our best friend.

So that's the core principle of Aries. We want to be focused less on what's in it for us and more focused on how can we inspire individual creative action in other people. So that's, that's the, that's the power of Aries.

Kelly: [00:16:24] I love it, that is why it's one of my core tenants you know, in the past several months and especially, the last few months, the desire to receive, not for the self alone, but for the sake of sharing.

Joshua: [00:16:37] Exactly. Exactly. It's beautiful. It's beautiful when you start to really look into, we call it the DNA of the signs, and when you can crack that code, like you said, you can really make a huge transformation.

So the next sign is Taurus and Taurus it's external element is earth, but it's internal element is fire, which can cause us to be stubborn and resistant to change. It can be so much so that when we're pushed too far, an internal volcano begins to erupt and it can cause tremendous damage. So on the new moon of Taurus, it's a day to be flexible and allow ourselves to go outside of our comfort zone.

You know, a palm tree survives a hurricane because it bends with the wind. So on the new moon of Taurus, we too must behave in the same way so that we don't break. And Taurus is known to be the most stubborn of signs. So flexibility is a key, key, aspect of taking advantage of the new moon as well as going out of the comfort zone.

Kelly: [00:17:42] My younger sister is Taurus. I'll be sure to tell her this.

Joshua: [00:17:44] That's it, that's it. Yep. And if you can look around and see, Oh, okay. That's why that person has so much challenge. You understand? It's part of their spiritual work.

Gemini, the third sign, right. Gemini is an air sign externally. And it's an air sign internally has the same energy, external and internal, which can push us to use our words and our mind because air has to do with communication and our thoughts.

But it can push us to use those in destructive ways. We can begin the gossip, we can begin to overthink, and that can distract us from keeping our feet on the ground and following through on our ideas. It will, it can leave us eventually with nothing to show for those ideas. So on the new moon of Gemini, we want to avoid speaking negatively about others. And we want to make an effort to finish what we start. You know, Gemini can often be distracted very easily. Most Geminis that I know tend to have some form of ADHD. And it's very important that on the new moon that we work to stay focused and we work to finish those things that we start.

Kelly: [00:18:51] Finish what you start.

Joshua: [00:18:53] Exactly. So the next sign we have is Cancer. So Cancer is the same element internally and externally, just like Gemini, but it's water. So it's water on the outside and water on the inside. That can make us, because water has to do with emotions, overly sensitive, and even needy. Our feelings are felt so strongly that we become ended up becoming slaves to them, and we expect others to speak and behave in a way that's sensitive to us. When, on the contrary, we should use the emotional sensitivity to understand the needs of others and seek to nurture them. You know, Cancer is considered the sign of the mother and the Cancer energy is one of nurturing, one of caring, much like a mother would her child, right?

So we want to use that energy to nurture others, to care for others, rather than being overly sensitive to ourselves.

Kelly: [00:19:51] Love it. And that's, that's the sign during this podcast, when it's released, you may be listening to the podcast at a later date. And so it's a later sign, but if you are listening to this, because you're a subscriber, this is being released during the energy of cancer. So let's work on our sensitivity Girlfriends.

Joshua: [00:20:12] So next one is Leo, one of the most demonstrative signs. That's because it's just like Gemini and Cancer has the same energy internally and externally. On the outside, Leo is fire, and on the inside, Leo is also fire and this energy gives us tremendous desire and a need for our creative energy to shine bright and be noticed. This can turn sour when we seek to share with agenda, because when we expect something in return for what we share, we give the positive energy revealed by that act of sharing over to the negative side, we end up wasting it. So on the new moon of Leo, we want to share for the sake of sharing, just because we want to be beacons of light. And then we want to let go of even the slightest need for appreciation or a thank you. And you know, that's one of Leo's greatest challenges is to let go of that need for feedback.

That need for, you know, the pat on the back, tell me that what I did and you know that what I, what I shared was worth it to you. You know, let it go. You want to share because you want to create positive energy in the world.

The next sign we have is a Virgo. So Virgo is an earth sign on the outside, and it's an air sign on the inside. And this combination of rationale, earth, practicality, and air analysis, and thought it can make us, it can make us fussy and overly critical. So it'll be easy to see what's wrong with everyone and everything in the world around you on the new moon in Virgo. So when you get to the new moon in Virgo, focus on what you need to change within yourself, but with love and acceptance, rather than judgment. Additionally, we want to make every effort to see the good in every situation and person that crosses our path on this day. The month of Virgo Kabbalistically, also as an opportunity for us to repair any sort of spiritual damage we may have done, throughout the year due to reactive behavior. So we'll have an opportunity that month to address, parts of our reactivity. And if we're able to overcome it, we can actually repair the sea level of any damage that reactivity might cause in the future. That's very powerful. 

Kelly: [00:22:33] That's powerful.

Joshua: [00:22:34] It is. So the next sign we have is Libra - my sign! We're in the middle -

Kelly: [00:22:41] Balancing the scales, right?

Joshua: [00:22:44] Exactly! So Libra is an air sign externally, but it's a water sign internally. And this combination of elements can cause us to feel pulled between our feelings and our logic. And that makes making decisions even more difficult because everything ends up appearing to have a good side and everything looks like, yeah. Okay. It has its good and its bad, everything has a good and a bad, right? But we need to be able to choose. So on the new moon of Libra, we want to discern what is right for us and what is not based on what best serves our spiritual growth.

If it pushes us to confront an uncomfortable situation, that's a good hint that we need to make a move in that direction. Decisive action taken with certainty will support us in proactive confrontations. Libra likes to avoid confrontation, so it's very important to be able to proactively address those things that have been bothering us and to make solid decisions during the month of Libra and just Kabbalistically speaking, the month of Libra is the Kabbalistic New Year. So whatever we do on the new moon of Libra will not only affect the 30 days to come for that month, but also the next 12 months to come. So we want to pay extra close attention to what we're doing on that new moon.

So the next month we have is the month of Scorpio.

Scorpio is a water sign externally and a fire sign internally, which, similar to Aries, it can bring about impassioned feelings and they can reach extreme levels of intensity because remember Aries was reversed. Aries was fire externally and water internally, whereas Scorpio is water externally and fire internally. They're both ruled by Mars. And so when we come to Scorpio, because it's flipped we can end up becoming controlling and extremely fearful because the water is dominant. It's feelings, emotion. So on the new moon of Scorpio, we want to let go of fear and drama. We want to allow the universe to show us that it has our back.

And we do that by getting out of our own way and allowing the light to flow as it needs to. And that's going to transform our fear into peace. And we act at a certainty. All the greater good that is meant for us will start to take shape and that's the power of Scorpio. You know, it's a sign of transformation. So we have a huge opportunity to transform and make a huge shift in change. It's usually a month we end up facing fears and if we face those fears, the light that's revealed by overcoming it will begin to manifest during the month of Scorpio - Scorpio is a month of manifestation. Super, super powerful.

Kelly: [00:25:46] Sounds like it. I love it. I love it. Okay. So Sagittarius, that's my Hubby's sign. So close attention here.

Joshua: [00:25:57] So Sagittarius is a fire sign externally. And an air sign internally, and this can bring enthusiasm to our ideas and words. And we can have a tendency though to speak out of turn and say things that while truthful in their essence can end up hurting others.

We can also feel a deep need to explore other horizons because we think the grass is greener on the other side. So on the new moon of  Sagittarius we want to focus on controlling our tactfulness as we speak, and we also want to practice appreciation for what we have right here right now. You know, Kabbalistically, the month of Sagittarius is also the month of miracles.

You know, Sagittarians typically will say they are lucky. In the month we can actually tap into that luck. It's not that they're lucky it's that they don't perceive limits. They don't believe in limitation. They think anything is possible. And because in their consciousness, "Anything is Possible", anything is possible and they're able to do things, and other people say, "Wow, how'd you do that?" Because they think it, they believe it. So in the months of Sagittarius, if we think and believe it will happen, it can actually happen. Super powerful, tapping the energy of miracles.

Kelly: [00:27:09] Well, my husband certainly is lucky. Some people know this. But my husband was actually on the plane that crashed in the Hudson river. So he fell 3000 feet from the sky without a scratch. So, he is one of those, lucky Sagittarius guys, I guess.

Joshua: [00:27:24] That's incredible. I did not know that. That's amazing. Yeah, exactly. There you go. It's a good thing he was on that plane!

Kelly: [00:27:31] That's right. That's right. Is he going to take away some of the glory to Sully Sullenberg. It was, it was all, it was all Charlie?

Joshua: [00:27:40] Yeah, exactly. Yeah.  It was all Charlie, forget Sully.

Kelly: [00:27:45] I love it. I love it. Okay, so now we're rounding out Capricorn in January.

Joshua: [00:27:50] Yep. Both of my parents are Capricorns, my grandfather was a Capricorn. My grandmother was a Virgo I'm surrounded by Capricorns. So for those of you, you know, think about the people in your life, right

Kelly: [00:28:01] My oldest sister is a Capricorn.

Joshua: [00:28:04] There you go. So Capricorn is an earth sign externally, and it's a water sign internally, but the water is typically frozen by the earth and it has a problem expressing its energy.

It has to do with emotion and feeling. So it can make us emotionally cold with others and place all of our focus on personal goals and achievement at any cost, even, even at the cost of our relationships with others. So, on the new moon of Capricorn, we want to make an effort to be warmer and more caring for the people around us.

And we want to prioritize an open heart as a top goal that we want to achieve. And if we do that, There's kind of a carry over Kabbalistically of this energy of miracles tha runs through Sagittarius into Capricorn. And on the new moon of Capricorn, we can also tap into and overcome the idea of limitation.

We can break through limitation in the month of Capricorn - Super, super powerful, and that limitation, once it's broken, can begin to manifest as the achievement of our goals, It's amazing. Super powerful.

Kelly: [00:29:10] Okay. So that means my sister has to keep doing all my heart opener meditation and yoga videos on my YouTube channel, right? All the Capricorns out there, go to my YouTube channel. Start doing the heart openers.

Joshua: [00:29:24] Exactly. I love it. Now the next line is Aquarius and Aquarius is an air sign externally, but a fire sign internally, which brings passion for new ideas and out of the box thinking, but this out of the box thinking can oftentimes make us feel like outsiders who don't belong.

And as a result, it can make us close hearted and indifferent to the feelings of those closest to us. So on the new moon of Aquarius, We want to make an effort to feel what others are feeling and to emotionally support them in whatever way they need. Aquarians very often have the humanitarian streak, they want to save the world. And they're great in groups. And they're great at humanitarian causes and making change in the world and breaking through limitation and things like that. But where they have the greatest struggle is on the one on one. On the vulnerability, on being close to other people. So on the day of Aquarius, we can actually, and it's similar to Capricorn and in many ways, cause they're both ruled by Saturn, Kabbalistically and they can also work to break through not necessarily physical limitation, but emotional limitations.

So more and more heart openers for you too, Aquarius.

Kelly: [00:30:39] That's right. That's right. Okay. I love it. I think every sign could benefit from the Girlfriend's Guru YouTube channel, right?

Joshua: [00:30:48] Yeah, for sure. I mean, who doesn't need an open heart? You know, I mean that's without a doubt!

Now we're getting to the last sign...

Kelly: [00:30:57] Last but not least is Pisces, right?

Joshua: [00:30:59] Exactly. Our humble Pisces. I love Pisces. It's one of my favorites. I love all the signs, but you know, some of my closest friends are Pisces. Pisces is a water sign externally and an air sign internally, which gives us the ability to tap into our imagination and spiritual consciousness.

We have the challenge though, of wanting to escape into our fantasies rather than dealing with the practical needs of our daily lives. So on the new moon of Pisces, we want to make a greater effort to be present and proactive in keeping to our commitments and scheduling. By grounding ourselves. Well, it will help us not to float off into delusions and fantasies.

And, you know, Pisces is the sign of transcendence, the sign of spirituality and Pisces often have an issue of dealing with reality. So if we're able to actually confront reality and inject spiritual consciousness, into the physical world, we can actually elevate the physical world into a spiritual consciousness and Kabbalistically the month of Pisces connects to happiness.

And when we unite the spiritual and the physical worlds together, we actually generate that light of fulfillment, which leads to happiness. 

Kelly: [00:32:16] That's why I'm happy whenever I'm around my Pisces friends. So now, now you've, you've demystified it for me. I love that you brought the elements into this conversation because in my yoga classes, I do have very element- centric classes. I always love to bring the elements of earth, water, fire, and air. I love to do book reviews and book shout outs.  So, if you're interested in learning more about earth, water, fire, energy, there's a book that I love. It's a little gem that I refer to a ton when I'm preparing for yoga classes. It's called "Wood Becomes Water" and it's Chinese medicine in everyday life. So it's a neat little book, it's been around for a long time. So that's, that's my, book suggestion. but let's, let's get back to, Astrology.

So what you're saying is that if we make these necessary corrections, we use these energies you just talked about then, we're basically elevating our path and correcting our Tikkun, and we're basically elevating ourselves towards spiritual success, correct?

Joshua: [00:33:24] Yeah, exactly. You know, and the Kabbalists kind of describe it, like, like a, like a... almost like a windmill.

And at the bottom of each windmill is a bucket and every day that cycle. You fill that bucket with something. You're either going to fill it with light or you're going to fill it with chaos. You fill it with light by acting like the light by being timed, by being proactive, by challenging yourself to overcome your reactive nature, you fill it with chaos by simply giving into your reactive nature to behaving selfishly and angrily, and falling.

And eventually what happens is the windmill spins and once the bucket gets up above you, the bucket empties out, down on top of you, right on top of you. So, you know, we want to think about these new moons as buckets - and even every day, every moment as a bucket. And this is actually, Rav Ashlag, one of the greatest Kabbalists of the 20th century, he taught this - if you think of every moment and every day as you're filling up a bucket that will eventually rise up above you and empty on top of you, what do you want to receive? Do you want to receive light and elevation and joy?

Kelly: [00:34:36] Of course!  More light, right? Nobody wants chaos!

Joshua: [00:34:40] Nope, but you'd be surprised at how strong the universe will challenge us and how easy it is to fall into reactive behavior. So you have to be conscious. And when you, when you inject the light into the new moon that light follows you and that light supports you so that throughout every day of that month, that light is with you and it gives you a boost.

So then in the moments, when you might be tempted to fill your bucket with anger, what do you fill it with?   Patience.  Forgiveness.

Kelly: [00:35:15] Perfect. And you make it sound so simple, but I want to tell everyone, you know, learning about the stars and the planets for me has been yet another tool to help me attain the ultimate goal for me is to become more like the light that made us. And, you know, I recorded this podcast in summer because there's nothing like looking up at the constellations in the summer night sky to inspire an astrology talk.

So Joshua, can you give us a peek into what the future of the rest of the summer is going to look like? Can you give us a general future forecast button? You know, because I don't know about you, but so many people are like, can we just fast forward through 2020?  This is coming out, you know, in the middle of the summer, so what's the rest of the summer going to look like? What's going on in those stars above?

Joshua: [00:36:07] Well, 2020 is a very powerful year. 2020 astrologically is, one of the most pivotal years that humanity has gone through. There are multiple cycles that are changing. There was the Saturn Pluto cycle. There's the changing of the nodes. There's the Jupiter Saturn conjunction. I mean, there's just, there's so much we could talk about, but essentially there were so many cycles that are changing over into new ones and it's manifesting as tremendous change here for humanity and here for the globe. And this change is going to continue happening throughout the rest of 2020. And the key for us, if we want to embrace and not fall victim to these changes, is we want to be flexible. Flexibility is the key, key word to being successful in 2020. Going with the flow, rolling with the punches, being in a spiritual consciousness and every moment and saying that this too is for the best, even if in the moment you can cannot see how in the world it could be for the best, if you shift your consciousness to say, this is for the best, and you decide that you were going to pull the good out of it, you will pull the good out of it. And that's important to know because as we get into the rest of the summer, and as we move into the fall, there are going to be more challenges.

There are going to be more challenges socially. There are going any more challenges politically. And you know, we're probably not going to see any remote resolution to COVID before the end of the year. So we want to utilize the new moons. And that's why the new moons are important in this, in this discussion so that we have support throughout the rest of the challenges and the changes that are going to be coming towards us in the next half of the year.

The new moons are  a means of support. And because if we can generate light in those new moons, that light will follow us. And we will be able to have the consciousness and the awareness to not fall and become victim to what happens, but rather to transform and rise above whatever happens,

Kelly: [00:38:43] You know, and I want to throw out, you know, everybody always wants it to be light, light, light, but remember, without the darkness, the light cannot be revealed. And as you're saying this, it reminds me, I lived in New York City, during 9/11 and I was, sitting in Fifth Avenue Presbyterian Church and sitting in the pews and, you know, I mean, New Yorkers, we were, we were stunned. I mean, the whole world was stunned at what had happened.

And, I remember in the sermon. He basically, Tom Toole asked us not to just think about the chaos and the darkness that this whole situation was, but that there were helpers everywhere and where the points of lights and the ways people came together.

And, like everybody has a 9/11 story. And most of those 9/11 stories, are kind of miracle stories about how people came together. And, so, you know, I've been taught that chaos can be one of the best times to clear away blockages, clear away your fears, welcome the light of the creator into your being. And I think even in uncertainty, if we can connect to the energy of receiving for the sake of helping and giving to others, then we enter into a world that is healed and renewed and full and, just like that great ball of light of a full moon, you know, like new moon energy to the full moon energy.

Joshua: [00:40:10] Right?

Exactly. Exactly. I love that. That's beautiful. You put it perfectly and it's true. It's true. We need, we must have darkness in order for us to be like the creator and reveal our light. We cannot, for example, I can't go out during a sunny day, light a match and think that the match is going to pose, you know, any kind of, you know, comparison to the sun.

But if I take that match and I go into a dark room, it illuminates the entire room. So we must have challenges. We have to have things happen that we don't want.

Kelly: [00:40:55] That's a great visual. So, so Girlfriends, I've had the pleasure of having a personal reading, with Joshua. And it was amazing to learn more about my astrological chart, and again, this is much more than just your sign. Joshua can help you answer that one question that a lot of us are asking, you know, "Why am I here?"  It will help you understand your Tikkun, your correction. And he helped me understand the steps that I needed to take, to achieve the life I want to have as well as some of the lessons that I needed to learn and challenges and darkness that I need to sort of peel back so I can grow.

And it really was eye opening and, you know, all these things of, you know, facing your challenges really help you hone in on your life's purpose.

And besides an astrology reading, it’s just a whole lot of fun Girlfriends!  So I highly recommend his services. If you want more information, I want to make sure everybody knows your website.

It's AstralAbove.com and it's AstralAbove on all his social media outlets as well.

Joshua. I just want to thank you for being with us and illuminating the energy of each astrological sign, laying out new moon energy and giving us a peek at what's ahead for the rest of 2020. I know we can handle it and, I just appreciate you being here and, your being on our podcast, sparked a whole book of matches.

Joshua: [00:42:22] Well, it was my pleasure. I really enjoyed it. Thank you so, so much it's doing these types of things that allow me to share my light with you guys. And, you know, I just appreciate you and the work that you're doing, and I'm sure both of us are revealing a tremendous amount of light, even right now in this moment.

Kelly: [00:42:42] Absolutely. So Girlfriends, I hope this podcast helped you to expand your own vessel and generate some spiritual light for you both personally, and for all of those, with whom we share this planet, I believe that we're shards of glass from the same vessel. It is in looking at our own pieces of shattered glass that we seek to unify these pieces and recognize that same light in others.

May we all continue to seek ways that unite instead of divide us. Until next time Namaste Girlfriends!

Becoming Unlimited

Kelly:  Good morning, everyone, good evening, or wherever you're in your day. Welcome to the Girlfriend's Guru Podcast, Talk. Travel. Transformation. I'm delighted to have one of my friends, my favorite spiritual gurus, David Bosscher, joining me today. We're geared up to share tools for transformation and help reveal the unique gifts that you have been brought into this world to express.

I believe personally, our soul is limitless and infinite with potential, and the only limitations are the ones we set for ourselves. We are moving into a unique energy this month. So learn how you can best take advantage of it and connect to your true potential and become unlimited. Welcome David.

David: Hi!  Thanks for having me.

Kelly:  I am so excited about you being here. For everyone who doesn't know, David is a conscious career coach. He's founder of the company, Destroy the Hairdresser, and he has spent his formative years studying the ancient wisdom of Kabbalah. So to it...

So, wow. Last month's energy, Taurus, full moon in Taurus - it took a long time getting through. Man, this pandemic went on forever and I know it's been hard here, but guys, for those of you that don't know, David spent it in New York City. So David, what was it like in New York during the stay at home order?

David: Um, it was scary. We actually have moved out of the city due to the pandemic for a few reasons. One, New York City is expensive to live in, but that expense kind of gets worse when you can't do anything in an expensive city. So we decided to leave and find a place nearby that we had more space. And I think that that's the energy of right now is everyone is expanding, kind of figuring out, taking stock of what they actually want in life.

I think that a normal process that people go through is "What I want to do in my life. Who do I want my life? Who should I cut out of my life?" This is a big question people ask themselves. When you go into something like a pandemic, it kind of does it for you because sometimes we don't like to do the work ourselves and the universe gives us a little bit of help. Unfortunately people don't change until the pain of staying the same is worse than the pain of change, and pandemics and things like that we see in the world that are happening just like political uprising in situations like that also force us to change.

So it's a really horrible experience, but it's also a really good experience for everyone to go through at the same time.

Kelly:  Absolutely. And we are going to talk about all of that during this podcast, I know that you and I both spoke a lot during the stay at home order. And we were really there for each other and we took some time for both our personal healing and to do some deep transformative work.

And, now we are moving into the positive part of that healing energy as we are moving into the month of June. And by the way, you know, we were in our cocoon, but  - and if you weren't in your cocoon and you spent a lot of the month resisting it, don't worry, we're going to give you some tools to jump into that cocoon and do some deep work so that you can take advantage of the shift in energy because we have the ability to connect to some powerful energy this month and June is about taking back control of our lives. And we're going to share with you what's ahead because it's going to be different than what we've been experiencing the last few weeks. We're not going to be going back to that energy. Good news for those of you who have felt dragged down and things were moving in slow motion because now is a time where things should start being pick up as we move into the month of Gemini. So I can't wait, what about you, David?

David: So, it's interesting that you use the word cocoon on your podcast due to the butterfly ideology and kind of going inward and introspection. In Kabbalah there's something called Tikkun, which means to repair and Kabbalistically, everyone's soul goes through it the Tikkun process in order to change and develop. And that's why we're here. So I just want to point out that it's kind of funny, the relationship between the word cocoon and Tikkun.

Kelly:  I never thought of that!  That's awesome.  I love it. I love that. Oh, that makes me smile.

David: And the other thing is, we just came out of the process Kabbalistically called the Omer, and that is a 49 day process after the holiday of Passover. I think a lot of times people think of those holidays as Jewish holidays, but Kabbalists don't believe that they are Jewish holidays - they believe that they're holidays that can be observed by all people and that they're windows in time. So when Passover happens, which in Hebrew, it's called Pesach. When that happens, there's a window in time for all people. After Passover ends there's also a window in time called the Omer. And the Omer is, like you said, it kind of felt like we were in mud, right? Like time slowed down. So it's kind of interesting that during the Omer, which is a very slow, energetic time that slows us down, we're not actually supposed to do anything during the Omer. That's a large commitment. We're not supposed to sign leases, buy new cars. Technically, we don't even buy new clothes. We don't buy anything new because the soil during that time is not good. So it's interesting that quarantine during the pandemic was during the Omer process. And now we're coming into June with the new moon of Gemini. So we now have Gemini energy coming in, the Omer ends, we're coming into this more fast paced environment. If anyone's a Gemini, they understand and that energy it's much faster. It's much more dynamic. And interestingly enough, not only are things speeding up, but now we have, you know, with like the racial issues that are going on in America right now, the energy of that is speeding up.

It's faster. It's out, we're out. People are protesting, people are moving, people have something to say. So it's very interesting. Energetically, you can kind of see how these moments and these movements and these pandemics and all of it is lining up with how the windows in time operate.

And I don't want to minimize any of those. I don't want to minimize these two big experiences, but I think sometimes when we understand the energy that is in the air, we can dress better for it. I mean, if you know that it's going to be 30 degrees outside, it's good to know that information so you can prepare for it.

And so I think by knowing the energy is available, people can prepare themselves for what's coming.

Kelly:  Absolutely. And, you know, we were speaking before this podcast and one of the things that David and I want to share with you is this is a time to reveal and utilize your super power, and when I'm using the word super power, that may or may not resonate with everyone.

But what I'm tapping into is, for example, we, as the Spiggle family have been watching a lot of Marvel movies lately, and there's always the storyline where the hero goes through this serious internal struggle. It may be an identity crisis, but they’re going through the struggle and order to reach the conclusion. That there is something that needs to change or something they need to do in order to tap into a calling and become the superhero that they were meant to be.

And if you're not a superhero fan, this can still apply to you. I actually spoke about the movie Groundhog's Day at my last winter energy retreat and in the movie Groundhog's Day. Bill Murray plays an average human being. He lives a life that is full of chaos until he realizes he has to stop thinking about just himself. Until he started living an intentional and mindful life and a life of sharing, then every day would look the same.

So Girlfriends, if you don't want your days to look like a rinse and repeat of each other, stay with us, okay?

David: Rinse and repeat.  I like that.

Kelly:  I like that. Yeah. So, so there's alchemy in the struggle, right? That's how David taught me. That in the darkness is how the light is revealed. Tell everybody a little bit about that sort of dark / light analogy.

David: Well, I think that there are a lot of people out there in like the spiritual consciousness communities that are spending their time in the light. I mean that by, I know Kelly, you teach yoga. I know that other people teach meditation and those are really good ways to stay in the light that you have.

But the only way to actually reveal light is to go into those really dark places. So when I coach people, they have a hard time because they want to stay in what they call positive mindset. And that's not really how Kabbalists work on things. And that's not really how I coach on things.

The real change is in those darker areas. The real change is when you're not meditating, when you're not doing yoga, when you're not in a positive mood...  We like to use the analogy of a house. Like, we all live in these big, beautiful mansions, we put our garbage in all the rooms, and then we kind of confine ourselves to a very small portion of the house. Yet, the universe is saying, "I've given you this beautiful large home and you've stuffed it with garbage." And so our goal in coaching is for having people be more conscious is to start opening the doors of those of those rooms and start slowly taking out that garbage.

It's not about becoming a better person. It's not about becoming more positive, for me at least. It's not about becoming what I think it's supposed to be spiritual. It's about cleaning my house. It's about cleaning my consciousness. And so I go into these rooms, we clean out the garbage and now I can enjoy that room. Now I can decorate it. I can fill it. I can share it. But unless we actually do that work, we're kind of just sitting in the light that we already have. So the goal of Kabbalah is to transform the dark areas of our life into light, and that is not something that most people want to do.

Kelly:  Absolutely. But you know, that's part of the reason why I use yoga and meditation and teach those modalities because I feel like sometimes people live in their heads and they need to get really in their body and they have so much blockage.

They don't even know where to begin. So, use those tools to start the process, but that's why I make sure to do the Winter Energy Retreat, the Spring Energy Retreat, doing the retreats where we go and have a little bit deeper dive where I to bring people like David and Tracy Podesta.

I love the analogy that you used of clearing out the rooms, because on an earlier podcast, I had an organizational expert come because you need to physically clean your spaces... but we're getting side tracked.

So let's talk about, because in a movie there's a productive struggle and then, voila, in two hours, there's a resolution. We don't have two hours for our podcast, right? So let's get everybody out of that Groundhog's Day loop and let's get real. Let's get honest with ourselves and let's talk about the triggers that keep popping up and keep holding us back.

David, let's take everyone in a deep dive because I believe the soul is limitless and it is infinite in its potential and through the teachings that you and I have had through some of the same teachers, we've learned how the body can be weighed down by these limitations and the desire to receive.

But the soul is boundless and infinite in its desire to share. And that's why doing the work - what we're going to do today, is a way to connect back to our soul and we can uncover the truth that only the limitations are the ones that we set for ourselves. So let's start becoming unlimited. 

David, like you said, you are a coach and so many people and teachers say "think big will attract big, think small attract small." You know, they make it sound so slogany.

And I don't think its like, "Okay! I'm going to think big and it's all big. So let's, go!"

David: I think people do believe that a little bit. When I teach people about manifestation, which is... and you know, that I have a really hard time with like, fluffy corporate, corporate corporatized spirituality. Is that a word?

I think it's misleading and confusing, and there's also this extreme amount of pressure for everyone to be positive and think positive. Like, don't say that, because it's not positive. I don't know if that really holds a lot of weight.

I don't think being positive is a bad thing, but I definitely think that anger, frustration, all of those, what we would call them, negative emotions actually create more of a productive change. If I'm thinking positive all the time, I probably will never change. I wouldn't have to when it's good. So I think there's a level of getting to a place where you know, it’s okay. Like, why am I angry? That's going to allow me to create change, not ignoring my anger and thinking positively.

Kelly:  Because the bottom line, you and I have talked about this, is who is running the show? It's our thoughts and it's our belief system. And let's get to uncovering this belief system that is running the show because there's a lot of subconscious and maybe sometimes conscious, but there's a lot of subconscious programming that, that we need to clear.

So let's do the work because if we all want to elevate and find our wings and fly, it's like, you take a 10 story building and you want to make it a thousand story building. What's preventing us from just building? Do we just build 990 more stories on top? It's not that simple. You have to build a significant foundation, the foundation you don't see, but without it, you can't have a big building.

And it's the same thing to manifest big things. And to be limitless, you have to build the belief system to support it. So let's unpack.

David: I think belief systems are tough. I mean, when you start talking about belief systems, you can talk about all the reasons you hate women, because your mother was a bad person. You can talk about all the reasons you don't like Muslims, because Muslims are bad people, because that's what I learned going to church. You can talk about gay people, black people…   belief systems are really tough and they're really, they're really deep rooted, like you said. And I think, I think that all people are different and very interesting in their belief systems, but there's one belief that everyone shares. And it's that I exist separately than everyone else. Everyone has that belief. That's why we have all those other beliefs. That's why you can look and say that is a Muslim, that is a black person, that is a gay person, that's a non-spiritual person, that is a spiritual person - because I am separated from all these people.

So that's one belief that we all have in common. And when you get down to the core of real spirituality, whether it's yoga practices, whether it's meditation practices, whether it's spiritual studies any real ancient study will tell you we're all one. But what that really means is getting down to understanding that you believing that you are separate than everyone else, that you are not part of what's happening in front of you. That is already saying we are not one. I am one and you are another. And so the core belief that most people need to start working on, myself included on a daily basis is that we are one.

Now I would like to say that doesn't mean I have to get along with everyone. It just means I have to have the understanding that we are all one. We are all one in this together. And the planet's kind of an interesting analogy of that because we all think we're different, but we're all floating around on this one space, right? And we're all doing different things to it, but everything that we do affects the other person.

So yes, we have all these other beliefs that we can go to therapies for and we should go to therapy for them. But the real, the real belief is, is feeling that I am, I am separate than you. I am an individual in the sense that we are not the same. And that's a huge belief that people, once you start working on that, then you have, let's say a butterfly effect with all the other changes that you have to make.

Kelly:  Well, and isn't the energy of a Gemini and the twins where the two really need to work on unity? And I do think unity is definitely the energy of this, this time and this month, I actually ran across one of my favorite Rumi quotes.   I always spend the morning doing a little bit of soul work and the quote is:  "Actually your soul and mine are the same. We appear and disappear in each other." And it just gave me time to, reflect and remember that we all come from the same divine source and we are all equal. So, just in light of what is going on in the world around us, actually just remembering your soul and my soul are the same. We appear and disappear in each other. We all come from the same divine source. We are all equal.

David: It's interesting about, you know, the month of Gemini is all about unity, but it is the two twins. But there's also, another energy to being the two twins. They have to face each other and also find differences amongst themselves.

So I think it's living in both worlds at once. It's saying we're all one, but also recognizing that we are all different, but yet we are still all one, right? It's a very hard dance. People think consciousness sometimes is one way, which we're all one and that's the end of the conversation. But consciousness means I can live in many different worlds at once. I can see many different angles at once. On one hand, I can see that we're all one, and I'm the other. I can see that we're different, right? On one hand, I know that we're all one and everyone should be treated with respect. And on the other hand, I understand that maybe as I'm a gay man, it's really important that a straight man understands that we are the same, but yet we are also different and to have the twins, I think during Gemini, that energy is  being able to build yourself and live in both of those worlds.

Kelly:  David, did you catch, I caught this this morning, you know, Minnesota is the twin cities.

David: Right.

Kelly:  And I think, it's interesting, you know, the twin cities of Minnesota do have some of the largest racial inequalities in the United States. And I do think it's a microcosm of what we're going through on the yin and the yang so many different levels. And I would love to come back and do a whole podcast on all of that. But we digress… We went really big, cause that's the energy of this month.

Let's take it back to the individual. Let's talk about our vessel for right now and our ability to be limitless.

David: In Kabbalah we talked about the vessel. We talked about the light. You can't have light without a vessel. You can't turn on a light bulb without the encasing of the bulb itself. So you have to have light and then you have to have something to put it in. So how do we know if something's a vessel?

A vessel can only do two things  - a vessel can share or it can receive. It can only do those two things. So if you think about it, humans can either share or receive. They can either give love or receive love. They can give money or receive money. They can give hate or receive hate. Humans can't really do anything else.

We can either consume food or create food. We don't really do anything else besides giving and receiving. And so that's how we know something is a vessel. That's how we know money is a vessel that's, you know, money is interesting. Money is paper that has different numbers on it, and we give it different value.

That's how we know it's a vessel -it either gives or receive. And so it's interesting that with people, we have to kind of remember that we are vessels. Our job is to give and to receive and find balance and that, which is very hard. Most people spend their lives either only giving. And feeling exhausted.

And some people spend most their lives only receiving and you know, they're experiencing overwhelming anxiety. There's, there's a lot of different ways to look at the vessel, but essentially you're either giving or receiving. And the battle of the soul is how do I live inside of a body? That is always trying to receive for itself.

If you think about it, the body needs to eat, it needs to sleep. It needs effect, it needs connection. It needs all of these things it's receiving, but the soul part of us wants to give, I want connection. I want to share. I wanna do those things- the struggle and the battle of the soul. It's really, how do I live in both worlds at once?

Kind of like we just were saying, how do I receive and how do I share? And so that's really, that's really how the devil works. And I think without knowing that it's hard to, it's hard to share, and it’s hard to receive properly. It's hard to share. I don't think we're at, I don't think we're educated on really how to work.

We're told to share when we're young. But I don't know if we are told how to share properly.

Kelly:  Well, this is the, that's a great segue because those of you who've been in my yoga classes and my workshops. I always talk about the vessel. I think of a glass of water, and basically you take the water and you want to give from your overflow. So that way there's continuity. So it's not a like giving from an empty cup.

The other thing too, is that if you take that water glass and you shake it, up, so say you take a water glass and you have it in your hand. And you shake that hand. What comes out is what is inside. And I do believe that our stories are based on the combination of the thoughts and the actions and the emotional experience based on all of our past experiences and or even traumas.

And it's the emotional experiences that, You know, these are these limiting thoughts, going back to self-limiting beliefs, maybe that you weren't good enough. Maybe it's an illusion of perfectionism, an illusion that you should be more or anything that makes you feel less than, and these leave powerful scars. What's inside is what comes out and what we express in the world.

So let's lay out for everybody the top three Subconscious Blocks. I'll start.

So the first one would be like, number one, I don't deserve blank. You can insert success, financial wealth, a successful relationship, but like I don't deserve.

David: Yeah. I think, I think the top three would be. I don't know. I mean, there's so much verbiage you could use. I think the top three would really be Shame, Guilt and Regret.

I think those are the top three most limiting beliefs.

Kelly:  Shame, Guilt, Regret. I like that. And if I put those in words, I would say I don't deserve blank. I can't blank or it's too painful. Like, you know what I'm saying? So those same things set a little bit differently. and I want to go back to the I can't, or I'm not capable because, that may not resonate with some people, maybe turn it one 80 and call it excuse mode, because you know, there's, there's people who are like, I can't, because.

My husband needs me. I can't because my children, I can't because X, Y, Z. And I'm only saying this because I'm just going to do a personal share. You know, I found myself super busy, as, as a mom and, but I wasn't necessarily feeding my soul on projects.

I'm making this sound worse than it is. But what I was doing is I was using self-sacrificing mode, to be self-sabotaging. So it kind of goes back to that shame, guilt regret or whatever. And, and I'm sorry for the interruption and, and digressing a little bit, but I know that there's a whole lot of subconscious activity going on and I just want us to all hold ourselves accountable. And, I want us to be honest and be very vocal about mistakes that we made in our past. Because you know, I had a very pliable and plausible excuse with putting my family first. It all sounds really great, but if I'm going to be real honest, it was another way of making me feel self-important.

David: Well, listen, there's a reason that people used to follow Kings and Queens, right? I always find it very interesting the way that societies used to be set up where the common people would just serve the King and the Queen and everybody was okay with that.

And there wasn't a lot of uprising against that. Because the reason people loved that was because the idea behind it was that these people will take care of me. I don't have to take any personal responsibility. There's someone who will do it. And we still kind of have that mentality today, whether it's with government or with our families or with our parents or with our spouse, when we start.

We start doing that or making what we, what I would say now is making excuses. It's really just saying, I don't really want to take personal responsibility for saying yes for saying no for trying something new. And especially right now, and in a world that's kind of on pause and shifting and moving and that personal responsibility, it really isn't a choice anymore.

You know, we used to be able to decide if we were gonna take it or not now. It's kind of just being handed to us on a silver platter. Like, here's what you need to work on. Here's what you need to conquer here. You remember that fear you had about losing money? Here it is. Remember that? Remember that regret you had about this? It's going to come up again.

So now in a time where the world seems to be again in Gemini, speeding up and you have to start taking responsibility for things and the excuses. You can make it for you. I make excuses all day, but at the end of the day, the universe doesn't really care that you have an excuse.

Kelly:  The universe is doing fine. Just keep living Groundhog's Day. So, then, let's give three tools to penetrate that. Penetrate and cut off that limited belief system, and transcend from shame, guilt, et cetera.

David, but how do we break free from this limited belief system?

David: The first step is you have to identify what the beliefs of things are specifically. So obviously we on a podcast can say shame, guilt, and regret, but, I don't want people to seem to think, okay, how do I work on my shame?

Well, first of all, what is the shame, what is the regret, what is the guilt? Do you have guilt when you're not around your children? Do you have guilt because you haven't talked to your parents, do you have guilt because you got into a fight with your friend 20 years ago and stopped talking?

You have got to get very specific with yourself because it's your life, right? It's your situation. So that would be the first step is really to find where I feel shame where I feel guilt, where I feel regret. I didn't put fear in that list because I think. Fear is the result.

If you add, if you had shame, guilt and regret into a blender, you're going to get fear.

Kelly:  Absolutely hitting it straight on. We're going to go to the pain, et cetera. We're not skimming the surface where this is about deep work. Okay. So this is how we go through, we hit it straight on gateway for blessings. Keep going.

David: Yeah. Okay. That's actually, it's interesting. It's a gateway for blessings because, the other thing that you have to understand is that when I, for the first step is to clarify and identify, the second step would, would be to prepare myself for the challenge. Again. Okay. So I want to work on my, my guilt that I have with this.

You know, let's say with my father, I have guilt because I don't call this person. Or I haven't talked to him in years, whatever, whatever it is now, the second step is I have to prepare that the universe is going to say, okay, David. I hear you. I'm going to give you another chance, right? We're going, that's what the Tikkun process is.

It's saying, you have to learn the lesson. You just kind of, now you're doing the work to learn it. Now we're gonna give you another, another opportunity. And so the first step is clarifying it. The second step is preparing for how to deal with it when it resurfaces.

Kelly:  So clarify, they basically need to do a lot of self-reflection, write lists, write you know, places where they feel like they shy away from pain when it becomes too great.

David: Yeah. I think the first thing is to write them down, right. You've written make a list, make a list of all the things you, all the areas where you feel shame it doesn't by the way. Sometimes something happened to you that makes you feel shame that you didn't do, but it's still on that list.

You know, we still are responsible for dealing with our pain, even if someone else caused it. So shame - make a list here, guilt -make a list, regret, make a list specifically what it is then prepare.  So I know that I feel regret for  missing this opportunity. I feel regret for treating someone a certain way. How am I going to prepare to change that? So create a plan, I'm going to call this person. I'm going to confront this person. Again, with shame, if someone caused you pain, your confrontation might have to happen through telling your story, sharing with other people so that they don't have to experience pain.

So what's my plan to actually deal with, you know, the shame, the regret, and the guilt? Once you have all of that, once you have the plan ready? I want everyone to know. Cause you said earlier to clear a pathway for selecting the miracles.

Blessings and miracles do not come in in a lovely fluffy package. My teachers have always taught me when you receive a blessing, you have to kind of visualize that light is traveling down. And what happens to light when it's in darkness? It gets covered by insects and mosquitoes and flies and moths. And that by the time it gets to you, it doesn't look like light.

It looks like a ball of bugs.

Who wants that? Right? Who wants, who wants this ball of bugs? In fact, usually when blessings show up, we, we push them away as quickly as possible. That's why we miss out on so much. So I think the first part is clarification. Second part is planning, but the third part is having the consciousness that I want to receive the blessing, which means that I'm okay dealing with those bugs. I'm okay. Knowing that that's going to show up, it's going to look like chaos, but as I clean off, you know, that blessing, I then begin to see that there's light in here.  It kind of comes in a shell. I have to crack it open.

Kelly:  Yup. I listen, I have to interject. So like, one of the things that I definitely did is just pushed away pain.

You know, I was, I was taught, Hey, Kelly, keep that smile on your face and be happy. And, I had to get really real and be okay with knowing that pain is temporary. And it was kinda like I had to learn to break a feedback loop. I was spending so much energy, keeping negative thoughts and feelings and pain away.

And when I just allowed myself to feel my feels, you know, I gave myself permission to not be perfect, and to cry and to grieve and to be angry. And, and those emotions when I fully felt them, then those emotions, subsided and dissolve like a bath bomb. And I'm not joking. I was in the bath this weekend. I literally, I had it.

I drew it. I draw a bath on Sunday and actually girlfriends stay tuned because I have a line of bath bombs coming out. That will all be its very exciting, but that's next podcast episode. I digress, but yeah. That's a great place to cry. And I just, I, you know, I was, I was crying about all kinds of things, those crying just about COVID. I was crying about George Floyd and I mean, there was just so much pain and just my heart just needed to feel that. And that's just something that we all have to give ourselves permission. Yes, I meditate. But a lot of people haven't gotten to this place of meditation.

I mean, I'll get you there girlfriends! I have lots of meditation videos. You can work with me one on one, but you know, sometimes it's literally, you sit still and it just all comes almost like a tidal wave.

David: Something, you said something interesting. You said pain is temporary and it's. I think that's, if pain is temporary and pain is also necessary.

And I think, and listen to me - you have two choices in life. We can either experience pain and then receive a blessing, or we can keep pushing pain away, which is really the blessing. And then we experience long term suffering.

So really it's like, if you have a toothache, I hate going to the dentist. I am afraid I actually still have to get my wisdom teeth pulled, because I'm afraid of going in, being put under, and having to recover. I'm totally afraid. But what does it do? The longer I wait, the worse, it gets. Every day I have an ache in one of my teeth. And I wonder with that tooth and all this, like the suffering is so prolonged when really I could just go tomorrow.

I can make an appointment, have the teeth removed, suffer, you know, have pain for a week and then move on with my life. But we don't do that as humans. We are not wired to go, "oh, pain? I want that!"

Kelly:  Yeah. So let's just start learning how to have a throw down and, and get journaling, get to writing and quit running away from the pain and be willing to, embrace it for a minute.

David: Yeah, you got it. What makes a Kabbalist different than any other spiritual person is that they see darkness and they run towards it. They run towards it, they embrace it. They love it. That's what they live. They don't spend a lot of time with the lights. They spend a lot of time in the dark, which seems kind of counterproductive.

But it's those dark areas that we, once you start feeling that pain and transforming it, which is easier said than done. But once you started doing that life starts to become lighter. The result is light, right? You want to, you want to create light.

Kelly:  Absolutely. And actually when I first met David five years ago, this was actually one of the conversations that we were having. The light that is behind all that negativity is only revealed by knowing that you can handle those feelings.

And that's why I teach yoga and meditation and breath work because for me using those tools allows me to feel the sadness, the pain, the hurt, the rejection, the heartbreak, and when I can feel them and experience them in my body. That's when I'm most connected to my soul. And that's when my perspective shifts to unlimitless and I know that I can truly handle anything and I'm tapping into my super powers.

And you know, girlfriends, I got you, you know, let's go into the depths of your heart space and if you need heart opener videos, I have free videos and meditations on my website. GirlfriendsGuru.com and, you can look at that later. So let's keep going.

So what's number three as a way to access the light and potential energy?

David: I think the third one really is about the consciousness part and knowing that the blessing is going to be covered in darkness. But I think once that gets there, trying to understand how we received something is very difficult.

Receiving is very, very difficult. But the funny thing is that receiving is our only job. We're  taught that we should share, which is, which is very true. We should share, and that's where a lot of fulfillment lives, but receiving is what a vessel does, right? A cup receives water, right? It's the cup was created to receive something.

Humans are the same. We were created to receive light, but for some reason we have a very hard time receiving energy. And I think it's because our relationship with it is, you know, if light, if you think about it, when we think of light, what is light? Light is all encompassing. It's every good feeling. It's everything you'd ever want.

It's all the money you need. It's the soulmate. It's happiness. It's, it's all of that into one. Now, if I were to come up to you, Kelly, and say, "Here you go, I'm going to give you all the things you've ever wanted in one moment”, what would you do?

Kelly:  It would be, it would be like, when we talked about the 990 stories.It would come crumbling down pretty quick.

David: You would be very anxious. You would be happy and you wouldn't know how to handle it. It's kind of like someone who wins a lottery. What a great blessing. An individual maybe has gone from very little money to a lot of money, but a lot, a lot of times, what we see is that when someone wins the lottery, their life gets worse and it's not because there's negativity it's because there's too much light.

So I think when there's too much light, then the vessel can't handle it. It feels like chaos. Imagine pouring water into a cup. And you just keep going. Eventually that cup overflows, and everybody starts to scatter and try to get a napkin and try to clean up and get the mop.  It becomes chaos.  Water itself is not bad.

Kelly:  Or you have a holey vessel. And I've talked about that, too in my classes where you have, your vessel might be more like a colander and basically you receive, and then you give it away. You share. And that's actually something that I've had many teachers, work with me. And let's talk about that share piece because, I am a big believer that another way to access the light and potential energy is the energy of sharing.

But you do have to make sure that you're not giving it away too quickly. You have to make sure that your vessel doesn't have a lot of, pinpricks and, and that you're not leaking out the sides. But once you have a full container, I do think that there is something about the desire to receive, not for the self alone for, but for the sake of sharing that is through circuitry.

And, I think that there is something really magical and helping someone else break free from their limited belief system. By encouraging and telling someone else that they can do it too. So let's talk a little bit about that sort of inspiring another and lifting each other up, because I know that you do that on a day to day basis.

David: I want to clarify for people that. I think people misunderstand what sharing is. I think people go, yeah, I want to make more money so I can give more money. In fact, there's a famous saying that we all say, Oh, I won the lottery. I would give to charity. Well, no, no you wouldn't. And, and it's a nice, it's a nice thought, but no, you would have, and maybe, maybe a little bit, but if you won the lottery, you would do a lot of different things and you probably have a lot of chaos.

Like the people that win the lottery. So it's just sharing isn't about, I need to receive more. To give more, right? The receiving to share means that I need to receive from other people in order to allow them to have the fulfillment of giving. I listen to everyone knows how to share it, right. If I have a bottle of water and I see someone thirsty, I share, right?

That's, that's a very simple level that we should all be at. But real receiving to share is when I give other people the opportunity to give to me, So that they can feel both the fulfillment of giving. If you think about all the times in life that you felt good, it's usually when you were giving to someone, I bought them dinner, I gave them a birthday gift. I paid for their college tuition and they didn't know it. I feel good about doing those things, but receiving to share doesn't mean I'm going to make more money to give more money. It means I'm going to give other people the opportunity to give so they can experience fulfillment.

Kelly:  Absolutely. And if you're listening to this podcast right now, the universe is going to give you this opportunity to use this tool. Trust me if you're hearing it, it's coming up for you, right?

David:  I see. I feel like the best way. If you have children are really good analogy about. Receiving to share is really when, if you think about, if a child comes to you and give you, a drawing they've done, you know, you don't need that drawing. It's probably not very good, but why did you take the drawing?

Kelly:   Cause you love them.

David: But what if you didn't take it? What, what happens to them?

Kelly:  Oh, they would crumple up. Oh, they were just sad.

David:  Exactly, so when I receive the drawing, I'm not receiving it for myself, I'm receiving it to share. I'm receiving it so that they can experience giving. And that's what receiving to share means.

Kelly:  So. We've talked about so many different things and given so many tools for transformation. The quarantine is beginning to lift. The energy is starting to lighten we're in the new moon, energy of Gemini and, you know, I do want to stop for a second. I keep talking about new moon and various podcasts, and I do want to talk about new moon energy in general.

It's an opportunity to plant seeds for the coming month. And so basically at a new moon, it's an opportunity to be proactive in your intention setting so that you can have the most elevated consciousness. And I'm not going to go into this much further in this podcast. Because I have a very fun podcast coming up for you guys in July.

I'm going to introduce to you David and I's friend and astrologer, Joshua Robbins. And we're going to talk more about that in July. So make sure if you're new to this podcast, make sure you hit subscribe so that you don't miss it, but I'm coming up. We have our full moon and that's when we kind of have to let things go.

So we'll talk more about moon energy, but just in the meantime, notice when the moon is full, and notice when it is new, and we also have the mid part of our summer coming up - summer solstice. So we have a lots of different moon energy. So stay tuned to moon energy. So let’s have one step back into what we can do.

David, recap for us what we can do to take control of our lives, so we're not that rinse and repeat of the Groundhog's Day and let's continue to tap into the energy of unification and balance.

David: Yeah. So like we said, the first step would really to be clarifying where you're feeling that Shame, Regret and Guilt. Again, we didn't say fear because fear is the result of all those things. After we identify that, we then want to prepare ourselves and create a plan for dealing with the issue, whether we're just preparing ourselves mentally and physically for that issue to bring itself back up. We want the universe to give us that opportunity again. And so we're preparing for that, right? Someone wronged me. I need to confront them. I wronged someone I need to ask for forgiveness. I need to create a plan. A lot of times we just jump into action and then it causes, sometimes, more chaos.

So when I say plan, I mean really thought out. Planning and processing of what I should do to be proactive. And then, and then thirdly, really understanding that I need to be able to receive what's coming. I'm going to ask for forgiveness. I need to be able to receive whatever the answer is going to be.

Maybe the answer is no, but I have to be in a state of receiving. And I also have to understand that light doesn't come in the form of light. Light many times comes in the form of darkness. And my job is to crack that shell open and reveal the light. So I would say the two things that people should really be focusing on, especially in this month is how can I reveal light in the dark areas? How can I recognize that dark situations or dark moments in my life are actually filled with light? How can I crack them open, right? By creating a plan. And also, how can I get into a state of this seeding to share, how can I position myself in my life so that other people can give to me? And I can allow them to have the feeling of giving.

Kelly:  David. It's a lot. It's a lot. I think that, you know, we just also need to inject some patience. You know, I think COVID has been an amazing time for mastering boredom. and some people may not think of patience as pain, but, Or maybe I should say impatience is pain, but, I certainly think that we have all experienced a little bit of discomfort over the last few weeks. And if we can catch these feelings and we can recognize them and we can sit with a little bit more patience than we can transform it into overcoming our pains, correct?

David: Yes. Get uncomfortable.

Kelly:  David, thank you. From the bottom of my heart for being with me today, your love and light has just as always pierced my soul, just like it did when we met over five years ago. I am thrilled, and so glad to share you with all my girlfriends.

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